Update, June 21, 2016: Sarita Joy Jordan passed away on June 19, 2016. Beloved by so many, she was a member of Living Beyond Breast Cancer’s 2015 inaugural Hear My Voice: Metastatic Breast Cancer Outreach Program, and, prior to that served on LBBC’s Breast Cancer Helpline and volunteered at many LBBC programs. Sarita spoke frequently to those in her local Philadelphia community including the media, medical students, and the general public. She used social media to reach a broader community through blogs and a Facebook page she created. An information seeker by nature, Sarita attended many national and local conferences gathering knowledge that she then shared with others.
The LBBC staff wanted to reshare this blog post Sarita wrote last year for the Beyond The Breast Campaign. It provides a sense of what a remarkable person she was and how she lived her life with joy and commitment. We will miss her.
In December 2005, I attended my first educational conference about breast cancer. The topic was about fertility in young women while going through a breast cancer diagnosis and treatment. I remember it like it was yesterday. I sat there and just listened to all that was going on around me. I had just had chemotherapy treatment that week and wasn’t feeling 100%.
There was a guest speaker who told her story. Her journey through breast cancer was incredible. Through all the surgeries and treatments she endured displayed an insurmountable amount of strength. I remember sitting there thinking, “I don’t have a story like that, WOW!” I had just started my journey and was in a fog as to what living beyond breast cancer should look like because I was a “newbie” in the fight.
As I continued on my path, growing through each step of the process, I began to think maybe I do have a story. There are so many things that go on that are ‘not so pretty in pink’, that no one prepared me for. At each conference I attended, trying to figure out my new normal, I learned something new to add to my zest for life. Somewhere in this process I began to blog from time to time and shared my story with almost toanybody who would listen. I didn’t want anyone to have to experience the depression, fear, anger, loss friendships due to their inability to cope, and loneliness. These are the things that all cancer patients go through behind closed doors. Eventually I was able to retire from my job and define my purpose and eagerness to help others by becoming a breast cancer advocate. I learned how to tell my story to encourage, educate and empower others to fight through a breast cancer diagnosis.
SO, I was asked, why do I tell my story? Honestly, I had to think: Why do I tell my story? There are several reasons. I choose to share my story so that others don’t feel they are alone. I tell my story because I am an African-American and my community needs to be able to relate to the messenger. I tell my story because I was stage I at my initial diagnosis and now LIVING with stage IV. I tell my story because I will celebrate 10 years of survival this month and I know this gives other women hope. I tell my story because I’ve learned that little money is spent on research for metastatic breast cancer and I’m running out of time to have my voice heard. This is why I am so grateful to be a Hear My Voice Outreach Volunteer with LBBC: to participate in community events and advocacy for metastatic disease. I tell my story for those that are no longer able to tell theirs.
Lastly, I tell my story for my children. They will always be able to access who their mom is as a person who truly cares, as a survivor, as a fighter, as a friend, as an advocate and someone who has used her own journey to try to save lives. In closing, I realize I do have a story. Each and every on of us does. Sharing is caring!