This entry was written by Michael J. Formica, MS MA EdM, Editor and Project Coordinator for LBBC who, as a mental health and education professional with more than 25 years of experience, also blogs regularly at Psychology Today.
During the month of January and in honor of LBBC’s 20th anniversary, Michael has committed to writing follow-up blogs reflecting the emotional appeal of the blog published the day prior. In this blog, Michael explores the concept of gratitude suggested in Linda Oken’s 2010 Reflections – 2011 Expectations.
As we tumble pell-mell through the everyday moments of our lives, very often it isn’t until we confront the Big Tragedy or the Big Loss that we take time to find our gratitude. In fact, gratitude and appreciation in the everyday can easily escape us, lost to professional deadlines, family pressures, financial concerns and buried beneath a mountain of laundry.
But laundry is what it’s all about, isn’t it? A big, never-ending mess that resolves itself into something clean, warm and dry with a little time and attention. The buttery feel of jeans that have been washed a hundred times. The wooly, woody scent of warm flannel. The gently amusing frustration of folding a fitted sheet – or trying. The quiet satisfaction of towels neatly stacked and put on a shelf. The looming inevitability that in a week’s time it will all unravel again and the secure knowledge that in that looming mess we will once again find a place that makes some sort of sense.
The appreciation of life’s small pleasures – without needing to be leveraged by the Big Tragedy or the Big Loss – is what brings joy and meaning into our lives. It is not only the small pleasures that can bring this to us, but the small moments of gratitude that so often go unnoticed serving to affirm us, and the fabric of our lives.
That sense of gratitude helps to keep us present and in the moment. When we’re present then, no matter how much chaos surrounds us, we stay in center – balanced and joyful in our everyday. The “good” and the “bad” dissolve from clear lines of conflict into a sense of just “different”, and the glass always remains half full.
In fact, the glass is always half full, just as it is always half empty. How we see it – how we live it – is just a matter of perspective.
LBBC challenges you to take a sip from a glass that is half full! Tell us how you will take a moment to channel a difficult situation into a place where you allow your gratification to take over. Comment here or on our Facebook page.