The Cancer Mom

IMG_8155LLBBC’s newest guest blogger Kate Crawford is only 28 yet she has experienced many of life’s hardships, including a HER2+ metastatic breast cancer diagnosis. Today she shares her story about how her diagnosis helped her realize her health is just as much of a priority as the health of her family…

 

My quest of Motherhood was not so easily sought after. My first daughter passed away from a rare congenital mix of defects. The miscarriage to follow her death devastated me. I vowed not to try again until I became pregnant with my now 5 year old twin girls. My twins arrived 6 weeks early, both staying in the newborn intensive care unit for two weeks. I welcomed every cry, every fit, every middle-of-the-night feeding, every poopy blowout and every spit of vomit on my shirt. Motherhood was meant for me.

When my husband and I decided to try again, we were met with an even rarer pregnancy complication that threatened the life of my unborn son. The thought of loosing yet another child consumed my every thought. My uterus erupted in the middle of the night, 4 and a half years ago, and our son needed  life saving measures to survive his almost 8 week early arrival. He stayed in the hospital for over 2 months and at almost 3 had the articulation of a 12 month old and could barely walk but he was one thing: a fighter.

My son required therapy upon therapy, doctor appointment after medical consolation. I was busy keeping him on track. He had many special needs that required a lot of attention. When I first found the mass in my breast, I was 28 and one busy mom. I didn’t have time to be bothered. As the months went on, my body changed, my breast changed and I had more aches and pains than a woman triple my age. I finally fit in a doctor appointment in early January 2013 and I explained to the doctor about the mass. My son was still just 2, maybe a milk duct was infected I suggested.  He thought otherwise. The next weeks seemed like a whirlwind as I was sent for an ultrasound, mammogram and then a biopsy.

I was 28 when I received the news. I had HER2+ Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer that most likely would never be cured. The only solace the doctor could offer was that she would “try” to save my life. Maybe the worst nightmare as a mother isn’t your child dying- it’s you dying. I realized that all along I should have feared the day that my children would be without me instead of the day I would be without them.

I started chemotherapy right away. I went every day for one year until my primaries were gone and my metastases were stable. It became tough getting around during chemo, between the 40lb weight gain, edema and pelvis metastases. I started in to radiation shortly after I stopped chemo. My latest scans revealed stability in my metastases and was cleared to have my bi-lateral mastectomy. I have been working on eating healthier, losing my chemo weight and being the best damned Mom my kids will remember. I decided that my diagnosis wouldn’t be a death sentence, but rather a living sentence. It was an opportunity to live my life to the fullest with my family despite my own mortality shoved in my face.

Kate is a wife and mother to 3 young children. She was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer at 28. Despite her prognosis, Kate finds time to live her life to the fullest and inspires others to do the same. She chronicles her journey at www.thechroniclesofcancer.com.

 

8 Responses to “The Cancer Mom”

  1. rawrmomabear Says:

    You are a very brave soul, but as a mother I realize that is what you need to be. I am sending you hugs and putting your whole family in my prayers. Enjoy life<3

  2. Anonymous Says:

    God Bless you! I am a 13 years Survivor of Breast Cancer! Believe and keep fighting, Maricals Happen Every day! I will pray for you! Stay strong your children need you!! :)

  3. Renee Knicos Says:

    Dearest Kate; I wish you strength as you continue your fight. I am a 13 year bc survivor, but unlike you, I was blessed with a nice wimpy Stage I Grade I Her 2 neu – tumor. I elected to do chemo anyway, a bit of a challenge as I was a full time 2nd year law student. As I know you realize now, stage 4 is now considered more of a chronic disease, and treatment can prolong your life for many years. I wish that for you. I wish happiness and peace for you. I wish the gift of time. Don’t forget to also be good to yourself. Your, sister, Renee

  4. Marlen Says:

    Heartful greetings to you from germany, i am myself a mom of 3, and got hit by cancer. You are beautiful, in every way! Thank u for sharing ur story, giving all of us hope, to see the good things, to appreciate life, love, every moment.

  5. helensamia Says:

    Thank you for sharing your story… Sending you blessings

  6. Pink Kitchen Says:

    What a beautiful family you have, Kate. I love your spirit. Keep it up. I have many friends who have been living with mets for many years…emphasis on ‘living!’ <3

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  8. asif42 Says:

    I really enjoyed this article. But for me as a parent to 3 lovely kids age ranges between 2 to 8 years old. I much more like them to stay at home rather than going outside and running around streets and meeting strangers that will cause dangers to them. Of course we admit that Tablets and smartphones can cause dangers too but is more far from getting abducted, raped and so on. I have introduced them to advance technology as this is a part of our society now and every kid as I believed should be entitled to know more about it since in this generation it is a big plus for kids now who knows technology and eventually use it for the future. All parent should do is know how to control and limit their playing time. And base on my research while struggling to limit my kids playing games on tablets and smartphones I have landed to a very helpful to all that limit what time they can use the tablet, control them and at the same time help them study mathematics. This Screenshot Ninja helps us parents to monitor them while we are busy working. So when their play time expires and they still want to play more they have to solve mathematics problem to gain more. Yeah its fantastic! As I have seen my daughters passionately solving it to gain more play time credits even my 3 year old daughter is asking me, “MOMMY what’s the answer to 2+7?” and I let her count and then all I know is that my daughter can solve math now. :D

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